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|Discussing the Issues of Life!
| "Fine Art of Friendships"
by Minister Ginger London, MA
According to Webster's Dictionary "friend" is defined as one attached to another by affection
and esteem; an intimate association.
Life long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people
involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly
esteeming the other. A life long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating
others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.
There are four strong qualities of good friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.
1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1
Jonathan's soul was knitted to David's soul. They instantly became friends. There will
be a common thread between friends.
2. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through
trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, "A new covenant
I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one
another." The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one
another as God relates to us.
3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is
shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to
help through trying times and joyful times of a friend's life. Sympathy is also expressed
through a listening ear for a troubled heart.
4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you
put your friend's needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need
you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are
you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends
When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built
on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong
foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs
27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to past the tests
of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1 :23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15: 13), an obedient
spirit (John 15: 14, 15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2: 19-23).
For more on this topic order your copy of "Friends, Foes, and Fellow Christians." or
"Forgiveness of Injuries/Broken for A Breakthrough DVD.
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